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Sociopathic Narcissists, The Next Generation

July 11, 2011

I came across an interesting, if long-winded, article in The Atlantic by someone named Lori Gottlieb about how the fact that everyone these days is molly-coddling their children is yielding generations of namby-pamby whiners who can’t get through life. Here’s a taste:

According to Twenge, indicators of self-esteem have risen consistently since the 1980s among middle-school, high-school, and college students. But, she says, what starts off as healthy self-esteem can quickly morph into an inflated view of oneself—a self-absorption and sense of entitlement that looks a lot like narcissism. In fact, rates of narcissism among college students have increased right along with self-esteem.

Meanwhile, rates of anxiety and depression have also risen in tandem with self-esteem. Why is this? “Narcissists are happy when they’re younger, because they’re the center of the universe,” Twenge explains. “Their parents act like their servants, shuttling them to any activity they choose and catering to their every desire. Parents are constantly telling their children how special and talented they are. This gives them an inflated view of their specialness compared to other human beings. Instead of feeling good about themselves, they feel better than everyone else.”

In early adulthood, this becomes a big problem. “People who feel like they’re unusually special end up alienating those around them,” Twenge says. “They don’t know how to work on teams as well or deal with limits. They get into the workplace and expect to be stimulated all the time, because their worlds were so structured with activities. They don’t like being told by a boss that their work might need improvement, and they feel insecure if they don’t get a constant stream of praise. They grew up in a culture where everyone gets a trophy just for participating, which is ludicrous and makes no sense when you apply it to actual sports games or work performance. Who would watch an NBA game with no winners or losers? Should everyone get paid the same amount, or get promoted, when some people have superior performance? They grew up in a bubble, so they get out into the real world and they start to feel lost and helpless. Kids who always have problems solved for them believe that they don’t know how to solve problems. And they’re right—they don’t.”

What’s the moral of this story? Your kids should know that they’re not as great and special as you keep telling them they are. And they should stay the hell of my lawn. Lousy kids.

Reminds me of this nonsense.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. July 11, 2011 11:24 pm

    Totally explains that whole Justin Bieber thing.

  2. July 11, 2011 11:44 pm

    I thank God every day that my parents regularly told me I wasn’t worth shit.

  3. July 12, 2011 12:14 am

    There’s so many kids these days that would have made great abortions. It’s sad.


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